In yesterday's Post said I was going to Have something Fall or Halloweenish in every post until The last day of October. So here is my fun stuff for today. Monday For Family home evening we had our favorite Fall treat. Carmel Apples My kids love them and they are so easy and fun to make just take 1 pkg of Carmel's(I like Kraft) Fallow the package instructions for heating. Then coat the Apples and if you like roll them in nuts M&M's Cookie crumbs or what ever you like. Place in fridge to cool then enjoy!!
Ok now I have to tell you a funny about Kissing. So last night I was with my Beehives from church aged 12 to 13 we had been shooting guns with the young men that are the same age. After we shot a few rounds they started a firer and we roasted marshmallows and had smores. As we were getting ready to leave one of the 13 year old girls said hey Sister Wilderness can I ask you a question I said sure she said is is ok if you kiss a boy before you are 16? I was a little caught off guard and said just what kind of kiss do you plan on doing. She said ya know a sweet kiss where you press your lips and linger a moment, relived that that was the type of kissing she was talking about I said well I am going to tell you you should definitely not be kissing anybody until you are at least 16 or older or until your married for that fact. Our church standards are we encourage the girls and boys not to date until age 16. I then was prompted to talk about it a little more . I said girls as your leader and a mom I am going to tell you to fallow the standers of the church. Yet rember I once was young too. I know how it feels to want that first kiss. So my advice to you is rember that yeah it might seem harmless but if you start at such a young age you have nothing to look forward too and you start wanting more. At first it will be a kiss then it will be a kiss with tongue then holding each other closer, then you will think it's OK from you to let him touch your breast. I totally had them squirming at this point they were vowing that none of them would let it go that far. Some of the girls kept telling me how could they let a boy touch there breast when they don't even have any(I almost peed my pants at that remark). Then they asked me when I had my first kiss and there was no way I was going to get sucked into that trap. I quickly said I really don't remember. Which was the truth. Any hoo it was just surprising how candid some of the girls were about there feelings about dating or going out before they are 16. I was also suprised at how comfortable they were talking to me about something so personal. They all said they would never talk to there mothers like they were talking to me. I took that as a complement. I am very open with my own girls and for the most part I know they can talk to me about these type of things(believe me Shelley is more open than I wish she was sometimes LOL) but after last night it makes me think what things they feel they can't talk to me about.
My question of the day is how open are you with your kids when it comes to Romance kissing and even sex? My other question would be would it upset you if your kids were having this conversation with one of there adult church leaders or there friends parents?