I have been up since 2 am unable to get back to sleep. I have so many deep thoughts running trough my head. (It's all Dales fault. LOL) The other day we had this conversation about my blog. He was pointing out some of things I have written in my post To him in my perspective I seem a little shallow in the things I write ( shallow my words not his) So I reread some of my old post and yeah They are mostly about me and all my vanity. I thought is this a bad thing no not necessarily. I just think it is me being goofy. That's why I write this blog to share all the mundane silliness of my every day ordinary life. After all do I really want to expose my deep emotional feelings to the world? Heck No !!!! That would be way to uncomfortable to both me and the world. I like being the self centered fashion diva. After all when I play that role it hides the deep emotional pain that I carry in side.
I think about how much my life has changed in the last 2 years. I think often about the Jennifer I was before I lost William . I loved that girl so much and wish some times I was her again. My life was dang near perfect I had 7 beautiful healthy children a wonderful relationship with my husband I was spiritually in the right place I had great friends a great social life. The most important thing I new who I was.
Now here I am 2 years later trying to find who I am again ,Sometimes I think it is so unfair that I have to go true this journey again. I think for me and the people around me playing the sallow fashion girl is easier than dealing with all the pain I really feel in side, Any good therapist would see right true my insecurities and would say that girl has problems.
I think the point I am trying to make is I need to dig deep again and not be afraid to be who I am. I think I need to take down the walls I have built sense William had died . I need to have an emotional make over . I need to relies that I am different now and it's OK It's OK for me to be sad it's OK for me to be mad and it's even OK when I get depressed. I am not perfect I never was. I think now as I am writing this maybe my life was not as perfect as I thought it was 2 years ago maybe it was just that I was happier not having known such a sever loss. What is that saying ignorance is bliss . Well I am no longer ignorant But I believe I can find my bliss again.
After all I am so blessed I have 8 amazing children a wonderful husband and Best of all a good relation ship with my Heavenly Father.
So I guess if I really think about it I have every thing I had before I lost William . Other than I live her in Alaska and I had to start all over again finding my place in the world. HMMM self therapy maybe I feel so different because my whole world as I new it was taken away from me all at once. Hmm something to ponder.( This really is a revaluation and not me being silly)
My brain is filling a little lighter and so is my heart . Dale I want you Know when you read this that I am not sallow or vain that It is just a facade to hide my feeling Kinda like when you are sarcastic. (Remember Sallow Is my word) this is not to make you feel bad I was not mad at what you said and in fact I never gave it a moments thought until 2 am this morning. You just gave me a lot of food for thought. I want you to know I am grateful you said what you said and thanks saying it constructively instead of a destructively . I believe you said this because you wanted me to see how someone else reading this blog may view me that may not know who I really am.
So i guess this as good of place as any to end this entry so hopefully from now on I can be a little more open and a little less silly.
Hugs to all...