Thursday, September 18, 2008

They are all mine!!!

And I could not be more proud of Them.. I have written about this before it is impossible to get a picture where all our family members are just smiling. No they all have to be goofs. It use to just make me so mad.. Now I just deal with it and tell myself I will love it when they are all grown..

OK now on to a more serious topic. Shelly the other night said something that hurt my feelings. she told me I was fake. She said that the real world dose not get to see the real me. I thought what . I am so not fake I am as real as they come. It really bothered me and hurt my feelings.. She then came to apologize and said I am sorry that I hurt your feelings but I am not going to change what I said. I then asked her to explain why I am fake. She then said you always have to do your hair and make up and smile fake in pictures. I then smiled and said Shelly thats vain not fake.. To me fake is pretending to be somebody you are not. Someone who has no real believes or convection's. Someone who only wants the glory, someone who looks down on others, someone who has no clue who they are. She said OK then I can see how you may have been offended by what I said she kissed me and that was that.
I will be the first to admit that I am very vain but I would never rip up a picture I did not look Terrific in Heck I have even exposed my ugly side here my blog a few time. I think often of the pictures of me right after I gave birth to William my hair was awful I had cried off all my make up but in those pictures I feel like the most beautiful girl in the world my inner beauty way outshines my outer beauty that's what I see and love.. Anny ways It still makes me sad that she would think of me like that.. It makes me feel like I am not doing a good job at teaching my children it's OK to be who they are. But believe me I let them. Just look what they are wearing in there pix. things they like and love not what I would have them wear. Believe me I would have them all preppy and Cheerleader looking in designer clothes. My girls are any thing but they are there own unique persons. and I love it.. So Shelly belly let me be who I am.. LOL
Ok done venting..

So what is your opinion of Fake?

10 comments:

Elizabeth said...

I agree with you. You are NOT fake. I am glad that you and Shelly love each other well enough to talk things out. I am so proud of you.

Ande said...

you are anything but, you tell it as it is and that is that. You also wear what you want and don't let others bother you with little comments. Everyone has a fake smile in at least on picture :) but hey we can't all be perfect. At least you are smiling. Shell will come to learn who she is and eventually who you really are. I am learning more and more about my mom, probably since I am more like her everyday.

Staci said...

Gosh Jen, I know i've never met you IRL, but you seriously come off as incredibly genuine!! It is clear what a sweet and loving soul you have, and your love for your family is so so evident. Don't let that comment bring you down, girl, you know the truth! And hey, there's nothing wrong with wanting to look good, either ;-) Adorable picture!!

In transition said...

At her age, in school, the land of the cliques, kids relate by categorizing eachother. In school, alot of the girlie girls are perceived as fake - because they put on a facade (hari, make-up, jewels) but it's really not fake... it's Grown Up Dress Up. It's fun, it's exactly why I wore a mowhawk at Christmas. Shelly might be feeling pressure at school because she isn't like them, but her momma is:) She's not fake either, she is just who she is - beautiful without the jewels and make up:)

You are beautiful in your pics with William, you were beautiful chasing Robbie through the court in bare feet!

You're soooooo not fake... you're a girlie girl! Rock those heels woman!

The Dean Family said...

As mothers, I do believe we have "fake" moments, You know the times when we feel so overwhelmed and/or underappreciated and/or challenged beyond our strength, that we just want to hunker down and have a good cry. As moms however, we must often keep going...smiling as we do so. I believe however, that "fake" is totally excusable.

I believe also, we all have separate public and private personas. Sometimes, the world just shouldn't know what we're going through. That too, I believe, is excusable. Is that being fake? Hardly. I call it survival.

Our children are often our toughest critics...it's only because they believe in us, and expect us as their moms, to be able to move mountains. I'm sure you've moved one or two ;o)

Chin up camper. Continue to be the best Jen Wilderness you can be...for there is only one YOU out there!

Meg Giroux said...

Oh Jen...I dont see anything fake about you. Gosh no!!! I think you are indeed genuine and kind and sweet. Sometimes kids say things that they really dont know the proper words to. dont let that get you down. We all love you and so does your shelly belly!!

Yarni Gras! said...

First of all, back up. You must be doing a GREAT job of being a mother. It takes a lot of courage for a child to say something like that. Then to apologize for hurting feelings but not for what they said. Then think how you 2 talked it out. That is a GREAT thing.
2ndly. I think fake is what you act one way to your family, etc. and another way when you are without them. Makeup isn't fake. Makeup is just man's way of tapping into our little insecurities and us buying it.....literally.

Jill said...

I think that teenage navigation is hard, and finding yourself requires you to judge others along the way. Not fairly, but judgemental nonetheless. I also agree with "the deen family" that sometimes as mothers we do have fake moments. I remember once when my mom was getting after me for something, and she was mad. The phone rang and she answered it so sweetly, I couldn't believe she could flip that switch so quickly. As a mom, I have had those moments. It's not really being fake, but multi-tasking. If that makes any sense.......

And, I am dying to see pictures of you in your dress, I hope you went with red accesories. I can't wait to see pics!!!

I'm Always Rite said...

Knowing Shelly, I understand why she said what she said. She'd probably be a bit dissappointed with me here lately. Make-up every day regardless of what I'm doing... But then by her standards maybe Shelly is a little fake too, because you and I both know she is a genuinely happy person, but she never lets us see it. :\

Kimberlee said...

You and I are really at opposite ends of the fashion scale. And it is something that I love about you. But ya, there is a huge difference between vanity and fake.